tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5305704801872500290.post5516145575985049655..comments2023-06-04T09:06:50.200-03:00Comments on Typical Ramblings, Atypical Nonsense: Breastfeeding and Guilt - My PerspectiveKristahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05773752354581656727noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5305704801872500290.post-41115585253393414332009-05-20T17:39:20.514-03:002009-05-20T17:39:20.514-03:00I loved breast feeding. No bottles, formula or mes...I loved breast feeding. No bottles, formula or mess. I would just roll over and put a boob in my son's mouth.<br /><br />It was hard to break him of the habit though. When he was FIVE my sisters took him to Houston for a week so I could dry up and he could get over it.<br /><br />I had a lactation specialist when I had my child. This RN came 60 miles because I was desperate. My breast were like missiles and I could not get my son to latch on.<br /><br />I told my friend who was having a baby to make sure one visited her. She said she could not find one. She also could not find Lamaze classes. What a cold world to send a mom to delivery without coaching and to nurse without help.<br /><br />Stopping by for WW:CyberCelthttp://advertising-for-success.blogspot.com/2009/05/wordless-wednesday-crimson-clover.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5305704801872500290.post-62784872426882680902009-05-20T13:51:12.933-03:002009-05-20T13:51:12.933-03:00Anonymous
Good for you for pumping for 6wks. I'...Anonymous <br /><br />Good for you for pumping for 6wks. I'm sorry that you had such a time with your breastfeeding experience. There could be many reasons for the unsuccessful latch and I’d be interested in hearing your story. Was the baby suctioned, were you medicated during delivery, was the baby tongue-tied, and were the lactation consultant’s board certified?<br />I never once implied that the guilt was in anyone's head or that some breastfeeding moms couldn't be insensitive. I said that I have never run into any, but I did say that there could be some judgmental ones out there. <br />But you know what; no matter what you do as a parent someone is going to criticize it. If you vaccinate someone will criticize that, if you don't they will attack you for that. If you co-sleep someone will criticize that, if you don't they could assume you are a rigid parent. The list could go on and on. Every aspect of your life can be criticized by someone, somewhere. So the choice is yours, let that criticism define you and your relationship with your child OR let it and the guilt they are trying to make you feel go. No one is you; no one walked your path. Don’t let other people make you feel guilty; you did the best you could at the time. That’s all any of us can do.Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05773752354581656727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5305704801872500290.post-862679579902538942009-05-19T22:03:05.844-03:002009-05-19T22:03:05.844-03:00I am happy that you had some success. I wanted so...I am happy that you had some success. I wanted so badly to breastfeed, and pumped my milk for 6 weeks because I was not able to get my babies to latch on. My poor (wonderful) lactation consultants would leave my room after 20 minutes of frustration unsure of how to fix the situation. Many a tearful night at 3 am later, with both baby and me red-faced and frustrated, I began bottle feeding. Unfortunately, my husband's family told me that I "just wasn't doing it right." and heard the "tsk tsk tsk" when I prepared formula. So NO, the guilt was NOT all in my mind, and breastfeeding moms CAN be insensitive too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5305704801872500290.post-34019917989822572452009-05-19T01:25:16.412-03:002009-05-19T01:25:16.412-03:00I get the feeling that the guilt comes from knowin...I get the feeling that the guilt comes from knowing that we could have had the information if we had, asked, looked, read or even just been a little more together in that moment. <br />I don't think the guilt is about the actual choice that we made, perhaps realizing that we didn't make a choice, we just followed poor advice or in some cases no advice at all.Natural Mom Loves Pradahttp://www.blog.emmasheart.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5305704801872500290.post-72884126887554923072009-05-19T01:15:00.409-03:002009-05-19T01:15:00.409-03:00I think it's great that you can recognize that you...I think it's great that you can recognize that you made the best choices you could with the information you had. Really, that's all that any of us can do as parents.<br /><br />And thanks for the link to that article. It's great!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5305704801872500290.post-71441287723339514252009-05-16T23:52:00.000-03:002009-05-16T23:52:00.000-03:00I'm an IBCLC, so I'm about as pro-breastfeeding as...I'm an IBCLC, so I'm about as pro-breastfeeding as you can get. I want to Thank You for this post! You did a great job of explaining why moms shouldn't feel guilty. Breastfeeding is NOT what makes a good mom!Glenni Lorickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18281773075553072404noreply@blogger.com