>> Monday, March 15, 2010
Last week I had to go shopping for Miss. Bean's birthday party decorations. I was on my own with E and we would have to go to a store that I knew wouldn't have a cart to put him in. Before I left home I thought about taking my sling with me, but unless E is tired or in the mood to be carried I knew this would be pointless. So off we went, I was hoping for the best. omg! Let me be clear - he wasn't being bad, he was being 2 (nearly 2)! He found great pleasure in running up and down the isles - never touching anything - just a great game of chase...As E is nearing 2 years old he's really showing me that he is almost 2 - you know, tantrums, running around, listening when he "wants" to do so. With my other children I always said no such thing as the "terrible two's" just wait for the "terrible three's", yeah E is disproving my theory (at least I hope - can't imagine 3 being harder than this!). I'm struggling as a parent. I've always been an attachment parent to a degree with all of my children and with each child my mindset as an AP has deepened. The ways that I may have disciplined my children in the past, no longer feel like the right thing for me. Not because I want to spoil him or I am too soft. I just want to teach him, not make him. Does that make sense? I don't want him to run down the store isles because he is afraid he will get a "time-out" or a "swat" *gasp*. I want to teach him that he shouldn't run down the isles because mommy needs to get the shopping finished, because he could fall, because he could end up getting hurt. But he's 2! How do I teach him these things without losing my mind in the process? I'll be honest, when he's having a screaming fit I'd really like to do the same - but I know that isn't teaching him anything positive either.
I've read a few great blog posts the last few weeks dealing with this issue. I thought I would post them here in case any of you are dealing the same sort of situation with your toddler. Plus they will be in a handy spot for me to come have a refresher course when I'm losing it.
Natural Papa writes It's Not Called Permissive Parenting
Naomi Aldort at The Natural Child Project writes Surviving the Toddler Years
Staying Patient from API Speaks
This parenting gig really doesn't get much easier with each child - at least not for me. As each of my children are different, I'm a different parent too. How do you as an attachment parent or parent who believes in gentle discipline handle parenting your toddlers? Have you written or read a great post on this subject? If so please share, I can use all the help I can get.